My family will always come first! Although my work is what brings home the veggie bacon, I know the importance of life balance and making my family feel first in my life. This is why I felt it was necessary to share my success and how I balance family & work. When I started my voyage into managing two ventures, Resume Demand and DIY Mogul, part-time, along with working a nine to five career I pretty much knew I needed to make some immediate changes to ensure my family still felt the love of Momma.
Here were some pointers I lived by:
1. Don’t feel guilty!
Our household runs like an oiled machine during the week. Homework first, read a book with my daughter, dinner, then a TV show or two. With me working more on my side projects, my husband stepped up like a trooper and took over homework and sometimes dinner. To keep my bonding time with my little one, I still have her read me a book every night. As time passed, our daily commitments dwindled. I would miss out on family TV, to post a few blogs, or finish up a resume. I felt more and more guilty. My motivation to keep going was to remind myself that I had a purpose and goal I wanted to achieve and I needed to make some slight adjustments to get there. I also compromised some nights to engage more in family time. This meant, turning all technology off by 8 pm.
2. Create Boundaries
Sometimes my family had no understanding of what timelines I was up against. For that matter, I can’t honestly say they cared. Nonetheless, I wanted to protect my time dedicated to my side hustle to focus. Some nights I would work until 10 pm or 11 pm. Friday’s and Saturday’s were common for these late nights. I would work from my home office during these times. This way I wouldn’t interrupt my husband or daughter catching up on their favorite shows. They also knew if I sat there, that mommy was busy and shouldn’t be interrupted.
3. Open Communication
Whenever I decided to work late or dedicate more time to work, I made an effort to communicate my intentions to my husband and daughter. This was helpful for them understanding my commitment for the day/night and whether I would be able to engage in their festivities. Even if I only needed an hour, I would stick to it, then focus on whatever plans they had. It seems like I work a lot, and I mean a lot! I’m always doing something, and I’ve never been the type of person that exuded much energy. Saying that there are moments when all I needed was some extra rest. I made sure my husband was aware my fuel was low and needed to re-charge.
4. Special Family Time
My family puts up with a lot of my mess throughout the week. I know they love me and want to spend every waking moment with me (at least I like to think so, although, my husband is probably just as elated to have time to himself), so I make it up by planning family getaways, even for a day. Our getaways aren’t what you may expect. We enjoy trips to Sam’s Club, walking the isles and hitting the sample counters (can’t leave without spending $150-$200 on a few items). We love trips to Marshall’s to find the best deals in home goods or apparel (Yes, I have my seven-year-old daughter hooked). We may even catch a movie early Sunday morning, before breakfast (that is the best time to go).
Overall, I’ve found success following these tips. I’ve found my husband is less frustrated because I used to work primarily from my side of the bed. Now that I take it to my office space, he has less to complain about. My daughter doesn’t fully understand just yet what mommy is trying to accomplish, however I know she looks forward to our time together. A win-win for all.
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